She walked away before she walked into the boudoir studio | Boudoir Photography Singapore

``You know… you're always walking." I laughed as I said it during one of our phone calls before her session.

Like many people in Singapore, I'd seen her joyful videos. Pin-up Rebel Ms V confidently parades along the HDB corridor outside her home in wonderfully unexpected outfits, and every time one appeared on my screen, it made me smile.

Then a thought crossed my mind. ``I know everyone recognises your videos easily because you're always walking in stylish clothing along corridor," I said. "But I wonder if those walks have come to mean something bigger."

She reflected for a moment and said, ``I've never thought about it that way before."

Then she shared something I wasn't expecting.

She told me that one of the hardest things a woman can do is find the strength to walk away.

For her, that meant walking away from her marriage.

Like many mothers, Ms V wasn't only thinking about herself. She worried about how she would support her children, whether they would be alright and whether she was making the right decision. None of those questions had simple answers, but she knew she couldn't continue living a life that no longer reflected who she wanted to become.

By the time we ended our phone conversation, I realised the corridor walks that had made her familiar to thousands of people online weren't the walks that had shaped her.

Those had happened long before she pressed record.

The woman behind the videos

A few weeks later, she arrived at her boudoir session wearing a trilby hat and a gorgeous pair of black leather boots adorned with tiny skull accessories.

I remember smiling because she looked exactly like the person I'd imagined from our conversations.

Then she opened her bag.

Every time I thought she'd unpacked the last outfit, another one appeared. It reminded me of Mary Poppins' carpet bag. Dresses, bodysuits, jackets and accessories kept appearing until every space around her was filled with little pieces of her personality.

The biggest surprise came when she held up a leather bodysuit with clips.

``Lara Croft! so sexxxyyyyyy" Nina, our excited assistant, shouted joyfully.

All of us burst into laughter.

What struck me most wasn't the number of outfits she'd brought. It's how excited she was to share them with us. The atmosphere felt less like preparing for a photoshoot and more like friends getting ready together before a fun night out. When it came time to decide which outfit to wear first, she admitted she couldn't choose because she genuinely loved them all.

Before meeting her, I already sensed her corridor walks were about more than putting together interesting outfits. After spending the day with her, that feeling became even stronger. Ms V told me she hopes another woman might watch one of her videos and think, "Maybe I can wear the outfit too." I think that's what makes her videos resonate. Her videos don't ask anyone to copy her style. They simply remind us that joy doesn't have to wait until we feel accepted by everyone else.

I know there are women who stand in front of their wardrobes wondering whether they're too old for a certain dress, whether bright lipstick is ``too much", or whether people might laugh if they wore the clothes they genuinely love.

Listening to her, I realised how easy it is to mistake someone's joy for simplicity. We see a woman laughing, wearing what makes her smile and enjoying life, and it's tempting to assume she's always been that way. The truth is, many women arrive at that place only after life has stretched them, disappointed them and asked them to make decisions they never imagined they'd have to make. Meeting her reminded me that joy isn't a personality trait. Sometimes it's a choice people make after they've been through enough to know that life is too precious to spend hiding.

Ms V reminded me that joy isn't something you stumble upon but sometimes it's something you decide to protect.

When curiosity took over

People often tell me they're worried they won't know how to pose during a boudoir session. And watching her reminded me that posing isn't really the point.

The moment we started photographing, something changed.

She stopped thinking about where her hands should go or whether she looked flattering. One movement naturally led to another until she looked completely absorbed in the experience.

There were moments when she instinctively struck a pose that surprised all of us. I'd smile behind the camera because I certainly hadn't directed that.

Later, I asked what had been going through her mind.

"The moment the camera rolled, the body took over the introvert in me. The fear somehow disappeared and curiosity took over because I wanted to see what else I was capable of."

In fact, she wasn't chasing the perfect photograph but she was exploring.

Seeing herself differently

When I asked what made her do a boudoir session, her answer was beautifully simple.

"I honestly wasn't expecting anything. I wasn't even sure what I was looking for."

As our conversation continued, she shared that people had often commented on her petite frame.

"People would tell me I was flat like a washboard. Skinny like a stick. There was nothing to see."

Those comments lingered with her for years. It wasn't until the photo reveal that she realised they no longer felt true.

The woman who had spent the day laughing over outfits, her active lifestyle and love for chocolate slowed down. Ms V took her time with every photograph, smiling before moving on to the next. There was no rush. She seemed content to sit with each image and simply look with admiration.

When the portrait of her C-section scar appeared on the screen, she beamed because it told the truth.

When I asked what the experience had revealed to her, her answer brought everything together.

"This session allowed me to understand myself and reintroduce myself to myself."

Looking across the room, I realised the photographs hadn't changed how she looked but they had changed the way she looked at herself.

Walking towards herself

Before we said goodbye, I asked whether there was one thing she hoped another woman might take away from her story.

She didn't hesitate.

"Never put yourself down just because the world doesn't see you."

I found myself reflecting about our very first conversation over the phone where I joked that she was always walking.

Long before she walked into the studio, she had already taken the walk that mattered most.

She had walked away from a chapter that no longer reflected the life she wanted.

Everything that followed, from the colourful outfits to the joyful videos and eventually the boudoir session, wasn't about becoming someone new for it was the life she built after choosing to keep walking.

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Perhaps this story found you at the right time.

Walking away doesn't always mean leaving a relationship. Sometimes it means letting go of self-doubt, deciding to stop waiting until you feel ready, or finally wearing the outfit you've been saving for ``one day."

Whatever that looks like for you, I hope her story reminds you that the biggest step often happens long before someone walks into a boudoir studio.

If you've been thinking about your own next chapter, I'd love to hear what's been on your mind.

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